A lot of things running through my mind, but couldnt seem to write them down coherently. Just feeling strange and funny how the pple around me are all facing the same problems now.. is it really so fragile?
I refuse to accept it but seeing wad happened around me makes me feel helpless.. when things just happen and nothing can be done to prevent it.
Sometimes I wonder why can't things be more simpler. Why are there so many complications?
I hope my belief still exists. And neither am i giving up on it..
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Sunday, December 21, 2008
How to be a better couple
Something to share adapted from an email..
Couples may find 'enlightenment' in it and for singles, bear in mind not to make the same mistake with your other half next time! :)
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express ur feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner understands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5. Show ur love.
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him... so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may just lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
Couples may find 'enlightenment' in it and for singles, bear in mind not to make the same mistake with your other half next time! :)
How To Be A Better Couple - 10 steps to enjoying each other better...
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express ur feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner understands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5. Show ur love.
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him... so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may just lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Exam blues..
BAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!
There's no use complaining about studying for exams when life still has to go on and exams have to be taken. And there's still the FYP interim report and experimentssssss waiting for me after exams.. wonderful. Perfect thingy to spoil my perfect one mth holiday.
I really hate you, FYP.
No mood for exams yet though ive finished 2 papers.. and 2 more to go. i thought i should be a full time mugger by now.. but no. Actually ive also forgotten how studious i was last time during exams.. It has been a year since i last took exams anyway.
Still remember a year ago i was still preparing for my trip to China.. Buying all the winter wear, air ticket, meet-ups with frens etc.. And of course the excitement of living in a foreign country and experiencing winter for the very first time.. And now a year later, im back here again looking forward to the stupid FYP.
Anyway Christmas is coming!! My most favourite season of the year! Though there's no snow in Sg, i still like the mood that it brings throughout the holiday season :) Just by walking down Orchard with the beautiful lightings and xmas songs can easily make me a happy girl.
Sometimes if you think your life is miserable, you should on your tv every monday night 8pm to watch the Life Transformers on Channel 8. There are so many unfortunate people around that we fail to notice cuz we don't interact with them directly. Afterall, everyone's life has a story behind it.
I was taking train back after exams yesterday and saw a malay family sitting opposite me in the train. The mother was wheel chair bound as her right leg was amputated and the father had 3 young boys with him, the eldest was mentally handicapped. I wonder how does the father cope with his family and take care of his wife and children.. must be damn taxing on him man. Seeing the predicament that they were in suddenly made me feel that im a much luckier and blessed person than most people.. at least than the malay family.
I guess what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.
There's no use complaining about studying for exams when life still has to go on and exams have to be taken. And there's still the FYP interim report and experimentssssss waiting for me after exams.. wonderful. Perfect thingy to spoil my perfect one mth holiday.
I really hate you, FYP.
No mood for exams yet though ive finished 2 papers.. and 2 more to go. i thought i should be a full time mugger by now.. but no. Actually ive also forgotten how studious i was last time during exams.. It has been a year since i last took exams anyway.
Still remember a year ago i was still preparing for my trip to China.. Buying all the winter wear, air ticket, meet-ups with frens etc.. And of course the excitement of living in a foreign country and experiencing winter for the very first time.. And now a year later, im back here again looking forward to the stupid FYP.
Anyway Christmas is coming!! My most favourite season of the year! Though there's no snow in Sg, i still like the mood that it brings throughout the holiday season :) Just by walking down Orchard with the beautiful lightings and xmas songs can easily make me a happy girl.
Sometimes if you think your life is miserable, you should on your tv every monday night 8pm to watch the Life Transformers on Channel 8. There are so many unfortunate people around that we fail to notice cuz we don't interact with them directly. Afterall, everyone's life has a story behind it.
I was taking train back after exams yesterday and saw a malay family sitting opposite me in the train. The mother was wheel chair bound as her right leg was amputated and the father had 3 young boys with him, the eldest was mentally handicapped. I wonder how does the father cope with his family and take care of his wife and children.. must be damn taxing on him man. Seeing the predicament that they were in suddenly made me feel that im a much luckier and blessed person than most people.. at least than the malay family.
I guess what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.
Monday, October 6, 2008
I'm Sorry
It was an utter mistake i had just made. A subconscious mistake that was purely unintended.
I know a thousand sorries wouldn't erase everything completely.
And i know it's easy to forgive, hard to forget.
I wouldn't give you the promise that this will not happen again, but i'll try my best.
Thank you for always tolerating my nonsense and giving in to me, accompanying me to school when you are damn tired, having meals with me when you don't need to, walking me home etc etc. All these might be trivial, but these little things are all that matter. I know you can choose not to do all these, but you didn't.
I really appreciate it during the times when i needed you and you were always there for me.
If i were to shout, i would want to let everyone know how great a boyfriend you have been. :)
I'm sorry dear.
I know a thousand sorries wouldn't erase everything completely.
And i know it's easy to forgive, hard to forget.
I wouldn't give you the promise that this will not happen again, but i'll try my best.
Thank you for always tolerating my nonsense and giving in to me, accompanying me to school when you are damn tired, having meals with me when you don't need to, walking me home etc etc. All these might be trivial, but these little things are all that matter. I know you can choose not to do all these, but you didn't.
I really appreciate it during the times when i needed you and you were always there for me.
If i were to shout, i would want to let everyone know how great a boyfriend you have been. :)
I'm sorry dear.
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Cool Stuff!
Alrights I've been wanting to try this long ago but havent got the time to do so.. and now it works!
Thanks to Phyllis who taught me this again! :)
Thanks to Phyllis who taught me this again! :)
So Busyyyy!
Yeshh Yesh, I didnt make the skin or change the skin myself. HAHAHA.. it was done by my IT-savvy tutee, Phyllis in less than 30 mins during tuition.. Oopps! Hee.. :D Thank you girl! I would have taken hours and days to change a blogskin if i were to do it myself.. tts y i havent changed blogskin ever since then. hee.. I love my new blogskin!
Phyllis u should really go be a website or blog designer!!
Recently work has been piling up.. more and more assignments and quizzes are already in queue after clearing the previous assignments and quizzes before term break. And this term break ish no break at all.. more jialat than my normal school weeks! Stupid FYP... making me so stressed up. I shall dump u after my FYP presentation! Hahaha..
Please tell me 1 Oct is Hari Raya Puasa and is a Public Holiday so FYP presentation is cancelled on that day. Den i'll have a week more to prepare :)
Oh well.. Life ish, and should be, and yes, it's beautiful.. Yup.
Phyllis u should really go be a website or blog designer!!
Recently work has been piling up.. more and more assignments and quizzes are already in queue after clearing the previous assignments and quizzes before term break. And this term break ish no break at all.. more jialat than my normal school weeks! Stupid FYP... making me so stressed up. I shall dump u after my FYP presentation! Hahaha..
Please tell me 1 Oct is Hari Raya Puasa and is a Public Holiday so FYP presentation is cancelled on that day. Den i'll have a week more to prepare :)
Oh well.. Life ish, and should be, and yes, it's beautiful.. Yup.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Calculator spoilt
I'm so sad. :(
Was doing my Safety tutorial and accidentally dropped my calculator to the ground.
And.. my calculator died.
This freaking calculator has been with me since Sec 1.. Close to 10 years man. And i'm actually quite emotionally attached it.. haha.. Boo.. now i'm quite sad over the thought that i have to buy a new one and get familiarized with it again. ARGH..
I should be happy that i will have a new calculator soon.
As the saying goes '旧的不去，新的不来' .. But i still hope my calculator will come back to life.
Back to my stupid tutorial... Bleah.
I want my calculator back.
Was doing my Safety tutorial and accidentally dropped my calculator to the ground.
And.. my calculator died.
This freaking calculator has been with me since Sec 1.. Close to 10 years man. And i'm actually quite emotionally attached it.. haha.. Boo.. now i'm quite sad over the thought that i have to buy a new one and get familiarized with it again. ARGH..
I should be happy that i will have a new calculator soon.
As the saying goes '旧的不去，新的不来' .. But i still hope my calculator will come back to life.
Back to my stupid tutorial... Bleah.
I want my calculator back.
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